You’re very little. Some feelings are overwhelming. You call for help. Here’s Mum. She syncs her nervous system with yours. You feel slightly bigger. She shows you that she can hold the feeling. She shows you that you can hold some of it too. You two can both hold a piece of it.
Love love love this piece, thank you Richard. It's taken me years to experience, but now i'm aware that the 'inner' mother (and inner father) never leave us.
Over the years, one of my friends from a group I am in often mentions shared nervous systems. It is nice to see you writing about it here. As an adult, it may sound strange, or wrong, to say that I am learning to do this for myself. I left an event yesterday due to a lack of empathy, sensitivity, and capacity of someone there. But just that act felt powerful and like a holding of myself. I wouldn’t have done it five years ago. I would have stayed and suffered in an attempt to be accepted and belong. I would like to hear more about your experience of this as an adult. What does it look like for you? I find other adults who have a lot of empathy from their own past, challenging experiences, and depth and capacity to be with a spectrum of emotions from living through them (if they have grown and integrated their challenging experiences). I am not sure if we share nervous systems except I can say things without triggering them and that is a powerful thing and I feel less alone.
Love love love this piece, thank you Richard. It's taken me years to experience, but now i'm aware that the 'inner' mother (and inner father) never leave us.
Over the years, one of my friends from a group I am in often mentions shared nervous systems. It is nice to see you writing about it here. As an adult, it may sound strange, or wrong, to say that I am learning to do this for myself. I left an event yesterday due to a lack of empathy, sensitivity, and capacity of someone there. But just that act felt powerful and like a holding of myself. I wouldn’t have done it five years ago. I would have stayed and suffered in an attempt to be accepted and belong. I would like to hear more about your experience of this as an adult. What does it look like for you? I find other adults who have a lot of empathy from their own past, challenging experiences, and depth and capacity to be with a spectrum of emotions from living through them (if they have grown and integrated their challenging experiences). I am not sure if we share nervous systems except I can say things without triggering them and that is a powerful thing and I feel less alone.
beautiful