Speaking for myself, I notice a struggle between initiating and listening. If I'm the person proposing something, I can be so keen and so determined to spell things out clearly that I talk too much. In taking the air space I can overlook signals from others who want to contribute. I get to recognise this tendency when I listen to a recording of the exchange.
I'm thinking also, Rich, of your past orientation to making a cup of tea in a gathering. I think this is a profound act of leadership.
Maybe it's the etymology of the word itself that's a problem...its whole kind of "being out in frontness" vibe. There are so many kinds of leadership that are more like "going on togetherness".
I'm also wondering if it might sometimes make sense to ask permission to lead? "Hey, y'all: I'm feeling like making the charge on this thing for a bit...is everyone good with that?" (but not in a threatening or challenging tone).
In my earlier 5 Graces writing I was trying to reach from Māoridom towards the notion of different kinds of leadership that could manifest themselves in the moment. In your retreat, could people notice and appreciate each other's different leadership moments?
“when nobody wants to be told what to do but everyone wants a clear sense of direction”
Simply stated yet rings so profoundly true
I'm such a leadership nerd. I drool at the idea of being in that conversation. Can't wait to hear future ideas and musings from this!
love it! Looking forward to your (and others'!) takeaways
Huge fomo I couldn't be there - hope you find answers to these wonderful questions & write a great follow up post to share some of your conclusions!
Excellent questions!
Such powerful questions! And looking forward to the reflection after the retreat!!! Hopefully next time I can join :)
Great list of questions and great initiative! Looking forward to reading what came out of this retreat.
A few thoughts:
Speaking for myself, I notice a struggle between initiating and listening. If I'm the person proposing something, I can be so keen and so determined to spell things out clearly that I talk too much. In taking the air space I can overlook signals from others who want to contribute. I get to recognise this tendency when I listen to a recording of the exchange.
I'm thinking also, Rich, of your past orientation to making a cup of tea in a gathering. I think this is a profound act of leadership.
Maybe it's the etymology of the word itself that's a problem...its whole kind of "being out in frontness" vibe. There are so many kinds of leadership that are more like "going on togetherness".
I'm also wondering if it might sometimes make sense to ask permission to lead? "Hey, y'all: I'm feeling like making the charge on this thing for a bit...is everyone good with that?" (but not in a threatening or challenging tone).
In my earlier 5 Graces writing I was trying to reach from Māoridom towards the notion of different kinds of leadership that could manifest themselves in the moment. In your retreat, could people notice and appreciate each other's different leadership moments?